What Makes You a Mother or Father?

If a child doesn't raise his or her child due to age or circumstance does it mean that he or she is not a mother or father?

I have gotten to the point in my life that I realized that I am a little, let me explain a big part of me from time to time gets stuck in a 12-year-old mind, and I have just now realized it. Now when I say stuck, I do not necessarily mean it in a negative way. I just believe because that was the age when I started getting pregnant and having children, it would only make sense that my lil (Baby Phenix) would have stopped developing or was it my lil became suppressed for some time. Because at that point I have basically felt like an adult and started trying to raised myself;

Question: So I ask you when at age 12, I got pregnant and had a child, does that make me a mother at that point?

Answer: No , is it because I didn't raise the child?

If I’m not considered a mother because I didn't raise my child, then that just makes me a child that had a child. Wow how do you think that affected my development of self-esteem from that point on to adulthood?

Now for my childhood... I had a mother that I was in her way most of the time so I have many different people who were adults into the wrong thing being responsible for a girl child. Many times I felt I was in her way and too much to deal with, it was the way she looked at me. I got that sense of I was a mistake and I was not really wanted by her. Do not get me wrong, there were times where I shared deep moments with my mother, I’m working hard NOW to rebuild something between us, she is the woman who birth me! so I can at least give that much respect, Right? I don’t blame her she did it the best SHE could with a troubled child. When I was very young I always was able to speak with her, but even with that we had a very interesting kind of relationship. My mother and I had the kind of relationship where we would joke about being each other’s parents, we would watch out for each other. But now that I am of parent, I realize that it is very important you build that bond with your child to teach them family, these are steps to closeness…